by whufc » Wed Jun 19, 2019 4:33 pm
What's the right/wrong thing to do. Sorry for the long post.
I was given a substantial bonus from my work to which they also requested I use it to take time off between April this year and October next year. I work in the aquatic industry so summer is a no go for us. I am really keen to take advantage of this as I have dedicated my life to work over the last few years and really could do with the substantial break.
The plan is I am looking to take my two eldest girls 11 & 8 (from a previous marriage) overseas to the UK/Ireland to visit our family they have never met. I also have a 1 year old from current relationship who we are looking to take before she turns two (and then we have to pay for her flights as well.) My partner is Irish and we have free accommodation locked up for the entire holiday.
We are looking to travel in May next year as that way I can catch some EPL etc whilst over there.
As part of the divorce agreement I am required to have written permission from my ex to be able to take my girls overseas. Whilst she has been 'ok' there have been some stumbling blokes trying to arrange this which have been extremely petty. The latest of the stumbling blocks though is not petty and has me a dilemma.
The ex wifes mother has terminal cancer and has been struggling on for a couple of years now. There has been no clear indication of how long she will live and her condition ebs and flows as many would understand.
Now the ex-wife has informed me she will only sign the permission if I sign to say that 'if' the mother passes away whilst overseas I will fly the girls back home immediately to be with her family and attend the funeral. Now don't get me wrong I don't wish any bad feelings on the ex-mother and law she was good to me during the marriage but really unsure if this is a reasonable request.
Obviously I will have invested extremely heavily in the holiday with everything from getting the girl passports (to which I am paying in full and have agreed in writing to allow the ex to use if needed) through to the flights, suitcases which they don't have, tickets to places such as Harry Potter World etc. I can get travel insurance but that wont cover all my expenses and the ex is refusing to compensate me in any way.
I get the want to have them there but this is also a once in a life time opportunity for the kids which in my case I will never get back.
Sorry about the long post but this one has got me stuffed from all aspects, morally, financially, fairness etc.
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