Jase wrote:The stress that my eldest is putting himself under for his Year 12...
He can pretty much not do the exams he has and still get the results he needs to get into Nursing, but he is stressing out so much he is almost making himself sick each night...
Breathe boy, Breathe...
Meditation.
I'm someone who has lived this kind of life before, even stressing significantly for stupid things like amateur cricket.
Its not a great way to live when you move on from stress to stress to stress, even if they are warranted stresses......….lifes to short.
Best advice I could give is a find way and make time for him to enjoy a stress free environment......what is he passionate about....eg if its cars find a way that he gets some time each week to be under the bonnet of a car. If its fitness ensure he makes time for this etc etc.
What has really worked for me has been a real strategy around getting my 'stressful' jobs out the way early both at work and at home. My partner knows if I am stressing about some work I have around the house to let me get it done first thing in the morning and then I will mentally be able to enjoy the rest of the day.
A tactic we have used at work is I don't switch on my emails for the first 2 hours of my shift. Once I open my emails I become someone else priority and get stuck in a game of email tennis completing tasks for other people. Each morning I spend the first two hours getting MY jobs done and then switch on the emails. I also do 10 minutes of meditation when I get home from work each. This is my crossover period between work and family and where I can release any work related stress or anger. Maybe that could work for him after completing a study session.
Maybe this could work for him, encourage and provide the time for him to get his study knocked off early in the morning. Most importantly though find something that he finds completely stress free and really encourage it in a healthy light whether that is fitness, hobbies, sport, gaming, meditation etc.
I apologise if these things are already happening.