**** mate. Bloody hell I have no words for what you have been through. You clearly are made of some pretty stern stuff.Lightning McQueen wrote:Brodlach wrote:Would be a tough job, everyone has a story whether true or false and trying to decide which one would be difficult
How many times would they get abused when it’s not their fault?
Absolutely, they've gotta hear people out though and not label immediately.
My lifetime monumental f-up:
Starting dating this chick when I was in my early 20's, she seemed nice.
After a couple of months I seen the inner pyscho unleashed, had a beer stein smashed over my head when I walked in after work one day, had a fork stabbed prong deep into my arm and then in a drunken frenzy I had a perfume bottle smashed over my head while I was asleep in bed and then she reached under the bed for a knife and proceeded to swing it about in my genital region as I tried to escape.
I got out to my car and drove to my mums house.....................totally naked LOL.
I never returned, both my parents houses used to get phone calls all night every week from Wednesday through to Saturday, to which no one would answer as we all knew who it would be, if anyone except me answered it, she'd hang up.
I did answer months later one night at 2am, it was her, blind drunk, crying incessantly, heavily pregnant.
I caved in, felt obliged to help her, all was well until she got out of hospital after the birth then she went straight to the bottle shop and got pissed.
I tried to help, but couldn't, I spent the next few years trying to gain some sort of custody, or at least, visitation rights, it cost me over $20K and she never showed up for court once, therefore no case could proceed.
For 18 years I paid in excess of $110K for a son I never got to see, my bad luck though, it's the system not the person working for it.
What did get me riled up though was whenever I tried calling the CSA to discuss the situation, if it was a woman that answered, I was basically labelled as one of them dads that abandoned his kids and wanted to dodge the system.
I feel for the lad, he's been brainwashed all of his life, his mum is still a crazy drunk that has never worked since and lives in a world of lies, I've had many phone calls over the years from her friends telling me that I need to intervene, family SA etc. never wanted to hear about it though.
It has burnt me inside for 19 years, he has a brother and two sisters that would love to meet him.
Good luck and I hope things keep going well and that you get a chance to see your son.