by Psyber » Sat Apr 05, 2014 2:45 pm
My age shows here perhaps as well as my social attitude, but I see it as decidedly bogan to ask for gifts at all, especially cash gifts, and totally crass if a couple were to suggest any specific minimum amount.
I see a wedding celebration is just that, a celebration of your happiness with your friends and family, not a fund-raising operation.
I think presents should be seen as optional, too, and not a requirement of attending.
But then I grew up in a less commercialised world, so I can understand that values are changing in some circles influenced by TV and magazines...
That said, I did spend about $500 on a present for friends at the last wedding I went to, and found out from their wider family what they really needed. The point was they did not solicit gifts or even run a list in a shop somewhere. Similarly,when I married the second time, we did not ask for gifts or money, and simply turned on a buffet and some champagne for the small group of close friends we invited, and made it clear in advance that presents were not necessary or expected.
There are many worlds apparently...
EPIGENETICS - Lamarck was right!