What can you do about stalker?

[CENTURION]

just tell him to **** off or you'll get some pipe-wielding HA's to bust him open. problem solved, no violence at all.

[The Sleeping Giant]

Yep, it ain't difficult. The reason why these types keep stalking is no one stands up to them

[Bum Crack]

Yeah I'd work the **** over. Mind you, don't do it at the Berri Pub, because you will get a 3 month ban like I did.

[Gingernuts]

I challenge anyone to give me an example of violence solving a situation.

Rwanda?

The UN stood and watched whilst thousands upon thousands were killed and women rounded up in front of their observers and placed into rape camps, the UN took no action and the UN commander ended up with a nervous breakdown because the UN would authorise no action, a neighbouring country became worried about invasion, sent in there army who killed the abusers and the killing and violence stopped and peace was restored, at which time the UN took charge of the clean up. Violence solved the situation and had violence in the form of war been used earlier far fewer people would have died.

LMAO. Are you seriously comparing roughing up a bloke in the shadows to the UN? We're not talking about violence in the form of war here with it's associated politics and decision making processes. We're talking about the primal premeditated assault of an individual by another.

BC is more on the money with his example. Violence might have solved his initial problem but there are flow on effects. Who says this stalker doesn't have an aquantance with a bigger iron bar? Or a gun? I'm sure that bikie thought he'd solved his problem. Now his kid is in a hospital with 2 bullet holes. Violence breeds violence. It might make you feel better but it sure as hell won't solve any problem.

[Hondo]

TSG, your solution might work for those confident enough in their ability to handle the confrontation and any subsequent escalation. However not everyone has that confidence and how would you know the lengths that this turkey would be prepared to go to? If he knows where she lives he knows where she goes during the day.

You assume he would back off and he probably would. But what if he doesn't?

I wonder if he knew you knew who he was whether that would be enough? ie, follow him home and leave an anonymous note in his letterbox maybe.

I worry that once you play the violence card you lose control of the situation. If your priority is the well-being of your misses whether you in fact could make it worse for her unless you are prepared to shadow her 24 hours a day until the situation blows over.

[The Ash Man]

Update HH3 ???

[HH3]

We went the police route. They're gonna have a word to him, sort of a verbal warning. Then if he comes near the property again he gets arrested.

We were also told that if he trespassed, we could do what was necessary to protect ourselves from danger (even if our actions resulted in his death). I think they're mistaken though, and not too keen to test it.

Anyway, we havent heard from him since last week, but theres usually a gap of a week or two, so we'll see.

[The Sleeping Giant]

We went the police route. They're gonna have a word to him, sort of a verbal warning. Then if he comes near the property again he gets arrested.

We were also told that if he trespassed, we could do what was necessary to protect ourselves from danger (even if our actions resulted in his death). I think they're mistaken though, and not too keen to test it.

Anyway, we havent heard from him since last week, but theres usually a gap of a week or two, so we'll see.

Good work HH3. All these dickheads trying to tell you to take the law into your own hands are retarded. You did the right thing.

p.s. That's awesome about the accidental death stuff.

[Barto]

Restraining orders work wonders.

[Westsider]

Accidental death is ok... justified force is the grey area.

Guy comes at you with a knife and you punch him and he falls over, cracks his head, dead. Thats ok.

Guy comes at you with a knife and you shoot him 15 times with your 12 guage shotty... they'll get you for murder.

[The Sleeping Giant]

Especially after you reload 7 times.

[Pseudo]

Guy comes at you with a knife and you shoot him 15 times with your 12 guage shotty... they'll get you for murder.

Five times with a revolver is sufficient:

"The scorching blade slashed at my eyelashes and stabbed at my stinging eyes. That's when everything began to reel. The sea carried up a thick, fiery breath. It seemed to me as if the sky split open from one end to the other to rain down fire. My whole being tensed and I squeezed my hand around the revolver. The trigger gave; I felt the smooth underside of the butt; and there, in that noise, sharp and deafening at the same time, is where it all started. I shook off the sweat and sun. I knew that I had shattered the harmony of the day, the exceptional silence of a beach where I'd been happy. Then I fired four more times at the motionless body where the bullets lodged without leaving a trace. And it was like knocking four quick times on the door of unhappiness."
(L'etranger, Albert Camus)

Not crying at your mother's funeral may also be an aggravating factor

[Jimmy_041]

So, when he does a runner.......... what's your new excuse for hanging round your mum-in-laws place 5 nights a week?

[Squawk]

Assuming the property is your GF's mum's, how about putting up a mock "For Sale"sign with a "Sold" sticker across the front? Of course, that also assumes that the guy isn't so local as to realise you arent moving after all.

[Lightning McQueen]

She should just put a sticker next to the doorbell "No hawkers, salespeople or stalkers please".

That might work.

[Jimmy_041]

Wire up the geraniums outside her window to the mains

[stan]

We went the police route. They're gonna have a word to him, sort of a verbal warning. Then if he comes near the property again he gets arrested.

We were also told that if he trespassed, we could do what was necessary to protect ourselves from danger (even if our actions resulted in his death). I think they're mistaken though, and not too keen to test it.

Anyway, we havent heard from him since last week, but theres usually a gap of a week or two, so we'll see.

Good work HH3. All these dickheads trying to tell you to take the law into your own hands are retarded. You did the right thing.

p.s. That's awesome about the accidental death stuff.

HH3, the best course of action is wha you have proabably gone done. Call the police, Trespassing is the first point of call. Then get an AVO. Then Trespassing again to have the AVO breached. This will in turn get him arrested.

[Mickyj]

Too bad if you're someone on the property at night but causing no problems - eg a friend coming to visit - and then due to bad lighting around the property, mistaken by a vigilante, for the stalker, and subsequently smashed over the head.

fate i guess