The Social Networking Conundrum

[A Mum]

Got to say that - every parent should have their kids 'added' as friends - you learn alot !!
My kids added me originally because they thought 'How cool mum's on facebook'
Now they probably think "Oh **** mums on face book"

Did Mum just swear? I am shocked and appalled. What is the world coming to! Obviously A Mum now has the latest patented REB invention. It is a FB button for when you don't want to add someone as a friend. The '**** OFF' button. Build a better **** off button and the world will beat a path to your door......

regards,

REB

LOL REB - Yes A Mum did just swear I said sh!t .... and not what you think I said

[goraw]

its prob like that show when cops pretend to be young girls and invite u over for sex then that guy is waiting and asks u why ur there etc and u say "i just wanted to hang out" and he says "then why did u bring condoms"

funny show.. catches all the **** pedo's.

to catch a predator, on the CI channel sunday nights.i think the season is over though.great show.

[fisho mcspaz]

Mr McSpaz refuses to get a Facebook account precisely because he doesn't want to be 'friends with acquaintances'. I can definitely see what he means now - someone sent me a friend request so I could be her teammate on Treasure Madness, which I accepted, and now I wish I hadn't because this person is like the sort of specimen you see on Jerry Springer, and I doubt I'll be able to forget the horrific semi-nude photos - misleadingly titled 'missbigsexy' and which, because I am her Facebook friend, appeared in my news feed today - in a hurry.

[Media Park]

Luckily for me Fisho, my friends who post those sorts of piccies are more than welcome to... Being my age group and having fantastic bodies...

[fisho mcspaz]

Luckily for me Fisho, my friends who post those sorts of piccies are more than welcome to... Being my age group and having fantastic bodies...

Well lucky you! Have this one as well! Here's my lovely Treasure Madness friend. I love to share.

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[Media Park]

***NSFW***

I just swallowed some vomit...

Thanks for the Fisho...

[heater31]

WTF is that Fisho


anyway I still haven't accepted or denied yet. I get the feeling that her mother is not fussed. Going by her profile I will be just a number as she has 1130 friends and counting.....

[fisho mcspaz]

My Facebook friend! Isn't she pretty?

[Media Park]

Heater, I wouldn't personally, but I don't think it'll hurt anyone if you accept her...

Fisho, that was WRONG!!!

[AFLflyer]

hahahahhahahahahahahahahhahahhaaa

who posts pics like that, funny as.

[JAS]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

I wonder how many people who went on to lifelong friendships with those who, in pre-internet/computer days, we called a 'penpal' would vehemently disagree with you. Just because it's now email and IM rather than handwritten snailmail doesn't change anything.

Regards
JAS

[goraw]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

I wonder how many people who went on to lifelong friendships with those who, in pre-internet/computer days, we called a 'penpal' would vehemently disagree with you. Just because it's now email and IM rather than handwritten snailmail doesn't change anything.

Regards
JAS

theres that part which is great, but what i find with this facebook crap is kids use it for insult after insult. its so rampant is become normal.i have stopped my kids from that sort of stuff but they cop a bunch of it from supposed friends .

[Psyber]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

I wonder how many people who went on to lifelong friendships with those who, in pre-internet/computer days, we called a 'penpal' would vehemently disagree with you. Just because it's now email and IM rather than handwritten snailmail doesn't change anything.

Regards
JAS

Valid point JAS, but somehow actually taking time to write to each other, rather than just click a mouse button, made it seem somehow more real.
There was a substantial interaction with time invested in the relationship.

[Iron Fist]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

I wonder how many people who went on to lifelong friendships with those who, in pre-internet/computer days, we called a 'penpal' would vehemently disagree with you. Just because it's now email and IM rather than handwritten snailmail doesn't change anything.

Regards
JAS

Valid point JAS, but somehow actually taking time to write to each other, rather than just click a mouse button, made it seem somehow more real.
There was a substantial interaction with time invested in the relationship.

Your still writing though??
albeit on a computer and its typing opposed to on paper with a pen.
Think there is still that connection.
We never had pen pals but i have friends who were exchange students at my school from Germany
I still contact them though facebook.
Otherwise we probs wouldnt speak, as I woudnt post a letter, and probs the same with them!

[Psyber]

I guess our problem, IF, is what degree of relationship and interaction distinguishes an acquaintance from a friend...
I have a few on line friends, with whom I communicate regularly, and we share our real names and discuss aspects of our real lives.
I have a lot more acquaintances on the Internet.

[Iron Fist]

I guess our problem, IF, is what degree of relationship and interaction distinguishes an acquaintance from a friend...
I have a few on line friends, with whom I communicate regularly, and we share our real names and discuss aspects of our real lives.
I have a lot more acquaintances on the Internet.

good point psyber.
I suppose it all comes down to that. what someone would called a friend another with the same sort of relationship may call a acquaintance, then another may call the same replationship nothing.
I admit I have friends on facebook I wouldnt talk on there to, but cant be bothered filtering through and deleting them.
They do you no harm being on your list!

[Pseudo]

Valid point JAS, but somehow actually taking time to write to each other, rather than just click a mouse button, made it seem somehow more real.
There was a substantial interaction with time invested in the relationship.

Exactly. There are myriad reasons why I hate fakebook (sic), and the above is one of the better reasons.

Communication with other human beings - if it is worth having - takes time and effort. One does not enter into communication unless one has something worth saying; and then one takes care to assemble words in such a manner as to convey that message. The information content of the message must be nonzero in order to have something worth saying, and the inherent signal-to-noise ratio of the communication must be sufficiently high for the message to be received and understood.

The current fad of social media has, contrary to the claims bandied about by the various media providers, destroyed meaningful communication between people. It has done this by making it all too easy to get behind a keyboard and share your thoughts with the world. Any cretin with minimal social skills can tell the world what's on their mind all at the touch of a button.

And they do. No longer are idiots discouraged from opening their minds by the need to physically pick up a pen and spend time writing. Now they can simply log on to wankbook and tell the world what they had for breakfast, liberally dousing their sentences with TXT SPK and 733t sp33k, giving scant regard to outmoded ideas like grammar and punctuation. Information content near zero, any vestige of signal drowned thoroughly in the noise.

At least back in the day when one had a penpal on the other side of the globe, whom one never saw and was unlikely to ever meet in person, one had decent communication with them. Was there ever a case where one opened a letter from distant lands only to read "Eated frosty flakse for brekky. Gots a tummy ache now! W00t!" ?

Those of you who do use social media for meaningful communication - and I'm sure many of you do, although you are merely islands in a vast sea of banality - consider that tossbook provides no extra functionality than you were already provided via email. The only salient difference is that email makes it difficult to include every other human being on the planet in the "CC:" line. With social media it is trivial to make your messages visible to all and sundry. I suggest that this is Not A Good Idea.

I seem to be grumpier than usual this morning. Time for a tea break...

[Mr Beefy]

Valid point JAS, but somehow actually taking time to write to each other, rather than just click a mouse button, made it seem somehow more real.
There was a substantial interaction with time invested in the relationship.

Exactly. There are myriad reasons why I hate fakebook (sic), and the above is one of the better reasons.

Communication with other human beings - if it is worth having - takes time and effort. One does not enter into communication unless one has something worth saying; and then one takes care to assemble words in such a manner as to convey that message. The information content of the message must be nonzero in order to have something worth saying, and the inherent signal-to-noise ratio of the communication must be sufficiently high for the message to be received and understood.

The current fad of social media has, contrary to the claims bandied about by the various media providers, destroyed meaningful communication between people. It has done this by making it all too easy to get behind a keyboard and share your thoughts with the world. Any cretin with minimal social skills can tell the world what's on their mind all at the touch of a button.

And they do. No longer are idiots discouraged from opening their minds by the need to physically pick up a pen and spend time writing. Now they can simply log on to wankbook and tell the world what they had for breakfast, liberally dousing their sentences with TXT SPK and 733t sp33k, giving scant regard to outmoded ideas like grammar and punctuation. Information content near zero, any vestige of signal drowned thoroughly in the noise.

At least back in the day when one had a penpal on the other side of the globe, whom one never saw and was unlikely to ever meet in person, one had decent communication with them. Was there ever a case where one opened a letter from distant lands only to read "Eated frosty flakse for brekky. Gots a tummy ache now! W00t!" ?

Those of you who do use social media for meaningful communication - and I'm sure many of you do, although you are merely islands in a vast sea of banality - consider that tossbook provides no extra functionality than you were already provided via email. The only salient difference is that email makes it difficult to include every other human being on the planet in the "CC:" line. With social media it is trivial to make your messages visible to all and sundry. I suggest that this is Not A Good Idea.

I seem to be grumpier than usual this morning. Time for a tea break...

I prefer less verbose communcations.
Mr Beefy received 1,000,000 coins in the lucky spin on Bejewelled Blitz. Woot Woot.

[Pottsy]

Now they can simply log on to wankbook and tell the world what they had for breakfast, liberally dousing their sentences with TXT SPK and 733t sp33k, giving scant regard to outmoded ideas like grammar and punctuation.

Ha! It's funny because it's true.

My daughter's friend was over the other day, and when she comes to our place she's incessantly on Facebook. No laptop at home, just phone access, so she loves the chance to use the full size keyboard.

I made her pancakes. They were going cold as she wasn't eating them, coz she was on the 'pooter. I go and have a look, and she's on FB, having just typed "Pancakes for brekfest(sic), Yummmmmmmmmm lolz ". She didn't understand why I teased her mercilelssly about it. She didn't even know if they were yummmmmm yet...

Psyber, I think the term "friend" as used in the FB world needs to be taken very, very loosely. I initially got offended about the use the term to describe vague acquaintances. Now I realise that it's become a term with a different meaning dependent upon context.

[Choccies]

Valid point JAS, but somehow actually taking time to write to each other, rather than just click a mouse button, made it seem somehow more real.
There was a substantial interaction with time invested in the relationship.

Exactly. There are myriad reasons why I hate fakebook (sic), and the above is one of the better reasons.

Communication with other human beings - if it is worth having - takes time and effort. One does not enter into communication unless one has something worth saying; and then one takes care to assemble words in such a manner as to convey that message. The information content of the message must be nonzero in order to have something worth saying, and the inherent signal-to-noise ratio of the communication must be sufficiently high for the message to be received and understood.

The current fad of social media has, contrary to the claims bandied about by the various media providers, destroyed meaningful communication between people. It has done this by making it all too easy to get behind a keyboard and share your thoughts with the world. Any cretin with minimal social skills can tell the world what's on their mind all at the touch of a button.

And they do. No longer are idiots discouraged from opening their minds by the need to physically pick up a pen and spend time writing. Now they can simply log on to wankbook and tell the world what they had for breakfast, liberally dousing their sentences with TXT SPK and 733t sp33k, giving scant regard to outmoded ideas like grammar and punctuation. Information content near zero, any vestige of signal drowned thoroughly in the noise.

At least back in the day when one had a penpal on the other side of the globe, whom one never saw and was unlikely to ever meet in person, one had decent communication with them. Was there ever a case where one opened a letter from distant lands only to read "Eated frosty flakse for brekky. Gots a tummy ache now! W00t!" ?

Those of you who do use social media for meaningful communication - and I'm sure many of you do, although you are merely islands in a vast sea of banality - consider that tossbook provides no extra functionality than you were already provided via email. The only salient difference is that email makes it difficult to include every other human being on the planet in the "CC:" line. With social media it is trivial to make your messages visible to all and sundry. I suggest that this is Not A Good Idea.

I seem to be grumpier than usual this morning. Time for a tea break...

I prefer less verbose communcations.
Mr Beefy received 1,000,000 coins in the lucky spin on Bejewelled Blitz. Woot Woot.

Send me some Mr Beefy So I can improve my score of 720K that I whipped up on Tuesday night