The Social Networking Conundrum

[White Line Fever]

As long as the mother is aware, you can accept her but put her on limited access I think. She still adds to her friend list (and it's all about numbers for kids) and you avoid the awkwardness when she comes in everyday.

Then, in about a month, you can quietly delete her and she won't even know

Until she turns up at his house demanding to know why they E-broke up!

Stage 5... CLINGER

[Footy Chick]

Are you serious? THis girl probably has about 600 friends, I can guarantee she's not going to notice...

[Johno6]

its prob like that show when cops pretend to be young girls and invite u over for sex then that guy is waiting and asks u why ur there etc and u say "i just wanted to hang out" and he says "then why did u bring condoms"

funny show.. catches all the **** pedo's.

[nuggety goodness]

its prob like that show when cops pretend to be young girls and invite u over for sex then that guy is waiting and asks u why ur there etc and u say "i just wanted to hang out" and he says "then why did u bring condoms"

funny show.. catches all the **** pedo's.

i saw that!!! so good!!!!!

[Iron Fist]

its prob like that show when cops pretend to be young girls and invite u over for sex then that guy is waiting and asks u why ur there etc and u say "i just wanted to hang out" and he says "then why did u bring condoms"

funny show.. catches all the **** pedo's.

that show is gold
loves some of the excuses that the blokes come up with!!

[Iron Fist]

Be very wary of Facebook friendships.

I guarantee it won't be around much longer.

An uncensored, public forum without anonymity.

Imagine the basement dwellers out there trawling through other peoples info & photos.

If someone walked into my house who I only 'kinda' knew & was my facebook friend would not be allowed to go through my phone messages and photo albums.

Think about it...
Facebook is an evil tool and if you have more than 100 friends you're kidding yourself.

think 100 is a bit low.
I have a high number of friends and probs 80% of them I know well enough to have a convo when ya see them on the street, sure there not best friends but more associates.
wouldnt take long to get 100 people you would speak to reguarly, think of it this way to make 100.

[Booney]

White Line, it depends what you use the medium for.

I rarely post anything on my page and have very few if any pictures. Some people I know post the most outrageous and at times libelous quotes that I'm amazed anyone would want to make public. Each to their own, but to suggest it wont be around for much longer is absurd. It is here to stay.

[fisho mcspaz]

I haven't had too many friends' kids add me - the ones who have added me are unlikely to be shocked at anything inappropriate I might post.

However, my ex-husband's father added me - saying that he'd just discovered Facebook and maybe I could help him learn to use it - so as far as I was concerned it was on for young and old! This family disapproved of me for having 'men friends' when I was married, so it wasn't hard. After voicing support for Communism, posting a picture of 'Why fat people shouldn't bungee jump', and updating my status as 'Fisho is overjoyed that this week she doesn't have to speak to that bald-headed nostril-forested freak from America' he decided he didn't want to learn how to use Facebook after all.

(NB: This isn't as mean as it sounds - this family used to access my Livejournal account to find incriminating stuff they could use against me in order to get custody of my son. I wasn't about to hand them my Facebook account as well!)

[Psyber]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

[Ron Burgundy]

I always thought friends were people you actually knew and spent time with in the real world, and that you did that because you liked each other, and had interests in common with, not casual acquaintances from work or school, or people you have never actually met..

I had one once.

[Dogwatcher]

I would be happy to catch up for a drink with each and every person on my FB friends list.

[Media Park]

Just did some stats for this discussion.

172 friends, 12 under 18 (10 of those are relations), and one person that I have never met (an safooty.net poster ).

[Booney]

Are we friends?

[Psyber]

I would be happy to catch up for a drink with each and every person on my FB friends list.

I'd probably be prepared to do the same with Tony Abbott or Julia Gillard, but that wouldn't make them friends.
I've had a drink with Peter Costello too, but he is still only an acquaintance.

[A Mum]

OMG Fisho you made me laugh so hard !!

In answer to the orginal question.

If I were you Heater I'd 'ignore' and then just tell the mother that you have chosen not to be FB friends with her daughter - given that you don't think the content of your page is suitable for her. Plane simple truth that the mother should appreciate and understand - even be grateful that you are so considerate
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Facebook in the 'A Family' world.

Given that 'A Dad' does not see any value in facebook - cannot understand why on earth people have them - and only chooses to hear the negative publicity surrounding facebook.... we have strict rules.

For the 'A kids' :
My kids are only allowed to add people that they specifically know - or - if they don't know they have to ask me - explain who the person is and then I give the yes or no permission. This rule however no longer works for Mr 20 - as he's an adult and hopefully can make good decisions based around FB himself !!

Half of you probably now think - hmmm what a b****...lol !!
But it's for their own safety and they respect these rules

My neice on the other hand adds whoever she wants - no matter who they are or what part of the world they are from,
she even has people who don't speak english !!
Older men etc, etc - I notified her parents,
she's still doing it - she's not my child - that's all I can do.
But it worries me no end

For 'A Mum' :
I keep to the above rules - only add people I know personally.
And most people are accepting of this (ie people I 'chat' with in other FB communities) when I say I wont be accepting their Friend requests.
I am so strict with who I add - that even some people from the past I don't add...lol.
And I had to at FC because I too on many occaisions have added 'said person' only to delete them a couple of days later.
Rude maybe - but oh well !!

I originally made myself a facebook page to post up the many photos I like to take.
I love facebook (used right) it's a great way to keep up with family and friends ever growing families and the likes.
And as JAS said - I hardly need to use the phone anymore

Got to say that - every parent should have their kids 'added' as friends - you learn alot !!
My kids added me originally because they thought 'How cool mum's on facebook'
Now they probably think "Oh shit mums on face book"

I try not to say anything to them about what they write - they've got to be kids after all,
but if I thought they overstepped the 'line' I'd soon say something.

I think Facebook is a good place for kids who would normally bottle things up inside to express themselves and get it off their chests.

So there is good and bad sides to facebook.

I find it interesting to learn that you are 'not allowed' to have a FB page if you are under 11 years old,
which seems fair enough - but I bet this is not the case !!
I know someone who set one up for her 3 year old - this is by far going tooo far,
In my opinion...Just like giving your kids a mobile phone at the age of 5 or something - shouldn't happen.

The biggest 'hate' I have of facebook is the language that teenagers use - I have many of my kids friends adding me - to which I accept and actually feel quite honoured sometimes that they want to add me...lol.... however Ithink I might be an old biddie - because - I find it sad and is there really a need for this language??

Sorry - that post went forever !!!!

[Rik E Boy]

Are we friends?

Have you gotten any of those 'friends' requests from hot looking chicks you don't even know? WTF is with that?

regards,

REB

[Media Park]

Are we friends?

Have you gotten any of those 'friends' requests from hot looking chicks you don't even know? WTF is with that?

regards,

REB

No Booney, we are not....

[Rik E Boy]

Got to say that - every parent should have their kids 'added' as friends - you learn alot !!
My kids added me originally because they thought 'How cool mum's on facebook'
Now they probably think "Oh **** mums on face book"

Did Mum just swear? I am shocked and appalled. What is the world coming to! Obviously A Mum now has the latest patented REB invention. It is a FB button for when you don't want to add someone as a friend. The '**** OFF' button. Build a better **** off button and the world will beat a path to your door......

regards,

REB

[Rik E Boy]

Are we friends?

Have you gotten any of those 'friends' requests from hot looking chicks you don't even know? WTF is with that?

regards,

REB

No Booney, we are not....

How did I get in the middle of all this Cracker.

regards,

REB

[Media Park]

I quoted the wrong post! where's safooty.net's **** button...