whufc wrote:We are at that akward stage with a 12 & 10 year old.
They have grown up to be inseparable especially being the glue of a spit family. Recently though miss 12 has become a lady and also started high school meaning they no longer at the same school.
Miss 12 going on 21 has changed her attitude completely and has developed a strong friendship group that doesn't include miss 10.Sadly Miss 10 is one of the sweetest, kind hearted kids you will ever meet and is really struggling to understand why the sistership isn't as close as it once was. Both myself and the mum have tried to explain but not sure she really gets it...…..almost a real life 'Frozen' scenario. Also spoken to miss 12 about how miss 10 is feeling but yeah that's going down like a led balloon.
Not much you can do there besides do more one on one things that Miss 10 would appreciate, Miss 12 will be wanting sleepovers and shopping trips with friends as she develops her own independence on social status, the gap will close when they are 14 & 16 and chat on a more equal level as they start sharing clothes, your girls although are only 2 years apart in age they are probably closer to 5 or 6 years apart in mind, it will be like a piece of elastic that will eventually recluse back to almost nothing.
There's no right or wrong solution, let your girls develop their own personalities and take the opportunity have that alone time with the other when it arises.
My kids tell me everything, even when they know I'm not going to like it, I can't help them if they aren't honest and they're aware of that.