JK wrote:Pag wrote:JK wrote:Booney wrote:First and foremost schools are responsible for his well being whilst there and you should let them use their procedures and protocols to deal with the situation. See how that plays out.
Unfortunately as a parent, as with Dutchy and the lad hitting the road solo, this is one you can offer advice and support on but ultimately you have to let them navigate their way through this, to an extent. If he develops some Rocky inspired moves and levels some prick then he's dealt with it how he felt he should and you support him through that. If he decides to ignore it, walk away and the bullies move on to their next victim then he's seen fit to deal with it in that manner.
It sucks. Bullies suck. I'll never condone it but I do believe it's a part of life that helps us discover ourselves. Develop our own coping mechanisms. Life isn't fair and it's rarely easy, sometimes we need to adapt and learn to cope and as long as our arse points down young people will go through developmental phases that build character. Sucks that we have too, but perhaps that's what makes us.
Thats pretty much been my approach, but given this is my first exposure to such a thing as a parent, wasn't certain if I advised correctly. I pretty much told him, if it's not your way or preferred method to belt someone then thats perfectly fine, you do you. But either way, this is one of those life bridges that unfortunately I cant cross for you - I can walk you up to it, but you've got to get across by yourself. Would like to think that by the time I pick him up in an hour he tells me the school have acted on it in some way that defuse's the situation.
Would be interested to hear how this all played out JK?
Better, but jury still out mate. Lad was directed to play in the hall on Thursday lunchtime, which is apparently reserved for the naughty kids, but he was told by dep-principal "Im sorry you were brought in here when youve done nothing wrong", so I think the deputy principal was just trying to keep him separate from the other kids. The next day (Fri), of the 3 most troublesome kids, 1 received an internal suspension for overall behaviour, 1 was off sick, and the other that was now on his own wanted to be friends (my lad accepted his offer, and whilst he has no intention of being mates, he did so just to have some peace). Im pretty proud of how he's stood up to it and it looks like the "gang" are splitting up, but I can see the potential for it all resuming again if the ringleader once hes back, decides to keep things going. So hopefully its petered out, but I have my doubts.
This one means that at least the school is well-aware of his behaviour, I very much doubt from the description you've given me that your son would be the only one on the receiving end. Trust that school will go through the steps and if the kid' behaviour doesn't change, he will end up getting himself suspended enough the exclusion becomes the only step left. You will find that without that one influence, the behaviour of the two will change dramatically as well. Good luck with it all.
