I need to know....

[Q.]

How much money people give as a gift for a wedding? I was having this discussion with colleagues and it seems I work with some cheapskates that only give $50.

How much do you think a three course meal and five hours of piss would normally set you back?

Me and the missus will chuck in $200 from the both of us.

[woodublieve12]

How much money people give as a gift for a wedding? I was having this discussion with colleagues and it seems I work with some cheapskates that only give $50.

How much do you think a three course meal and five hours of piss would normally set you back?

Me and the missus will chuck in $200 from the both of us.

$200???? I should have invited to my wedding...

$100 minimum...

[Phantom Gossiper]

$200???? I should have invited to my wedding...

$100 minimum...

$200 between two people is $100 each

[cennals05]

How much money people give as a gift for a wedding? I was having this discussion with colleagues and it seems I work with some cheapskates that only give $50.

How much do you think a three course meal and five hours of piss would normally set you back?

Me and the missus will chuck in $200 from the both of us.

I always put in $100 from myself.

[woodublieve12]

$200???? I should have invited to my wedding...

$100 minimum...

$200 between two people is $100 each

not if your married... $100 from a couple

[Phantom Gossiper]

not if your married... $100 from a couple

It's the wifes money either way

[woodublieve12]

not if your married... $100 from a couple

It's the wifes money either way

agreed...

[Booney]

not if your married... $100 from a couple

It's the wifes money either way

agreed...

[Psyber]

My age shows here perhaps as well as my social attitude, but I see it as decidedly bogan to ask for gifts at all, especially cash gifts, and totally crass if a couple were to suggest any specific minimum amount.

I see a wedding celebration is just that, a celebration of your happiness with your friends and family, not a fund-raising operation.
I think presents should be seen as optional, too, and not a requirement of attending.

But then I grew up in a less commercialised world, so I can understand that values are changing in some circles influenced by TV and magazines...

That said, I did spend about $500 on a present for friends at the last wedding I went to, and found out from their wider family what they really needed. The point was they did not solicit gifts or even run a list in a shop somewhere. Similarly,when I married the second time, we did not ask for gifts or money, and simply turned on a buffet and some champagne for the small group of close friends we invited, and made it clear in advance that presents were not necessary or expected.

There are many worlds apparently...

[mighty_tiger_79]

road rules

when cars are turning right into a 2 lane road, are they supposed to stay in the lane closest to the middle island, or are they allowed to choose between the two lanes and then forcing cars wishing to turn left to wait until its clear or the sequence of lights change???

otherwise why do they have lines marked out????

[wristwatcher]

How much money people give as a gift for a wedding? I was having this discussion with colleagues and it seems I work with some cheapskates that only give $50.

How much do you think a three course meal and five hours of piss would normally set you back?

Me and the missus will chuck in $200 from the both of us.

We had our engagement party a couple of weeks ago and had a wishing well for people didnt want to buy gifts as the wedding expenses will be between 12 and 15K. The standard amount given was $50 per person or per couple but we had all sorts of odd amounts. Some $20, a family gave $30 and then a pair of brothers gave $100 each. In the end you get what you get and I don't think you have a right to really complain either way. My main motivation was to avoid shit gifts and obviously help towards the huge expense that is coming. Some people gave just a card. (Their presence won't be required at the wedding )

Personally I would go $50 for engagement and ton it up for the wedding. I haven't been to an engagement party or wedding where I didn't drink $50 worth of piss. I have been informed that we are doing a registerey for the big day. At least that way generally you get things you want or need and it simplifies purchases for the invited guests. Personally I'd be embarrassed to give some of the gifts I received but apparently its not socially acceptable to tell people to stick their drink coasters or salt and pepper shakers up their ass.

You busy in November Q, I like the look of your generosity

[mighty_tiger_79]

id get started on the hombrew - that will save some coin

[Q.]

You busy in November Q, I like the look of your generosity

Promise a good spread and I'll clear my schedule

[Failed Creation]

My age shows here perhaps as well as my social attitude, but I see it as decidedly bogan to ask for gifts at all, especially cash gifts, and totally crass if a couple were to suggest any specific minimum amount.

I see a wedding celebration is just that, a celebration of your happiness with your friends and family, not a fund-raising operation.
I think presents should be seen as optional, too, and not a requirement of attending.

But then I grew up in a less commercialised world, so I can understand that values are changing in some circles influenced by TV and magazines...

That said, I did spend about $500 on a present for friends at the last wedding I went to, and found out from their wider family what they really needed. The point was they did not solicit gifts or even run a list in a shop somewhere. Similarly,when I married the second time, we did not ask for gifts or money, and simply turned on a buffet and some champagne for the small group of close friends we invited, and made it clear in advance that presents were not necessary or expected.

There are many worlds apparently...

I agree, soliciting gifts seems pretty tacky.

For our wedding, my wife and I never sought gifts from our guests, as they had all traveled some distance (we even had a few from overseas) to attend. To me, a guest's presence should be 'presents enough'...

[wristwatcher]

My age shows here perhaps as well as my social attitude, but I see it as decidedly bogan to ask for gifts at all, especially cash gifts, and totally crass if a couple were to suggest any specific minimum amount.

I see a wedding celebration is just that, a celebration of your happiness with your friends and family, not a fund-raising operation.
I think presents should be seen as optional, too, and not a requirement of attending.

But then I grew up in a less commercialised world, so I can understand that values are changing in some circles influenced by TV and magazines...

That said, I did spend about $500 on a present for friends at the last wedding I went to, and found out from their wider family what they really needed. The point was they did not solicit gifts or even run a list in a shop somewhere. Similarly,when I married the second time, we did not ask for gifts or money, and simply turned on a buffet and some champagne for the small group of close friends we invited, and made it clear in advance that presents were not necessary or expected.

There are many worlds apparently...

I agree, soliciting gifts seems pretty tacky.

For our wedding, my wife and I never sought gifts from our guests, as they had all traveled some distance (we even had a few from overseas) to attend. To me, a guest's presence should be 'presents enough'...

Foot note; don't invite failed creation

[Q.]

I'd rather give cash and know you'll spend it as you choose than look for something you might already have or not even use.

[Failed Creation]

My age shows here perhaps as well as my social attitude, but I see it as decidedly bogan to ask for gifts at all, especially cash gifts, and totally crass if a couple were to suggest any specific minimum amount.

I see a wedding celebration is just that, a celebration of your happiness with your friends and family, not a fund-raising operation.
I think presents should be seen as optional, too, and not a requirement of attending.

But then I grew up in a less commercialised world, so I can understand that values are changing in some circles influenced by TV and magazines...

That said, I did spend about $500 on a present for friends at the last wedding I went to, and found out from their wider family what they really needed. The point was they did not solicit gifts or even run a list in a shop somewhere. Similarly,when I married the second time, we did not ask for gifts or money, and simply turned on a buffet and some champagne for the small group of close friends we invited, and made it clear in advance that presents were not necessary or expected.

There are many worlds apparently...

I agree, soliciting gifts seems pretty tacky.

For our wedding, my wife and I never sought gifts from our guests, as they had all traveled some distance (we even had a few from overseas) to attend. To me, a guest's presence should be 'presents enough'...

Foot note; don't invite failed creation

I rarely get invited to anything, and when I do, I don't want to go... I'm a much nicer person after I've had some drinks.

I even get uncomfortable when people ask what I want for my birthday. It seems people don't like 'nothing' as a response to that question.

[LaughingKookaburra]

I get abused when I get asked what I want for Xmas, birthdays ect. I actually want nothing. A couple drinks, day off with the ones I love is more than enough....

[Failed Creation]

I get abused when I get asked what I want for Xmas, birthdays ect. I actually want nothing. A couple drinks, day off with the ones I love is more than enough....

Spot on, and that's how I feel about weddings too. If I actually wanted something, I'd have gone out and bought it already. If I couldn't afford it, I'd wait.

Occasions like birthdays, Christmas, weddings etc should be about the gathering of people to celebrate that particular person/occasion/couple etc. At least, that's all I ask for those times.

[dedja]

I get abused when I get asked what I want for Xmas, birthdays ect. I actually want nothing. A couple drinks, day off with the ones I love is more than enough....

Ditto ...