MW wrote:I guess if I knew what is was like having the alternative it might seem that way, but it was just a way of life for me.
Losing Dad was f..ked up though so Mum had to raise three teenagers without her parents around or her deceased husbands parents around or his family as he migrated from Poland many many years prior by himself.
What it did mean though that my brother, sister and I were extremely independent kids because we had too be otherwise we would never go anywhere or do anything.
Yes, I can tell it strengthened despite it only being via here, my parents separated when I was 15, dad moved a fair way away and mum was a mess for a while to the point where she wouldn't leave her spot for days on end, I had to tend to my 7 year old sister for a few years after that, it's a drop in the ocean in comparison but it certainly opened my eyes up to what lies ahead.
I've made mistake after mistake in my life, I try to learn from them, I think dad's passing was the real "line in the sand" for me, despite being 39 at the time it certainly threw life into perspective and made me chase goals, not just visualise them.