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Phantom Gossiper wrote:

fisho mcspaz wrote:When blokes actually say what's on their minds after about 6 years of 'I'm fine, don't worry.' Keep talking! Talking is fantastic!

There are PLENTY of women who do the same thing

Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.

fisho mcspaz wrote:Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.

Good on him haha!

Fair enough if you know your partner well enough you can work it out but men get times where the issue is just complicated to work out for themselves and it's almost like they're expected to read the woman's mind and know what's going on in there, no matter how complicated it may be. Got that with my ex and it's the reason she is my ex lol.

The Dark Knight wrote:

fisho mcspaz wrote:Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.

Good on him haha!

Fair enough if you know your partner well enough you can work it out but men get times where the issue is just complicated to work out for themselves and it's almost like they're expected to read the woman's mind and know what's going on in there, no matter how complicated it may be. Got that with my ex and it's the reason she is my ex lol.

I don't reckon I've ever done it for anything complicated - I can't actually think of anything complicated, most of my issues are pretty straightforward. The ONE thing, and I mean the one thing that I've said 'I'm fine' for when I wasn't, in the last 2-3 years, was that I used to get upset that MM never went out of his way to do anything romantic for me. I accept that he's not that sort of person but I also reckon that people should make an effort occasionally, it's not too much to ask. I'm not a high maintenance person or anything, I was just sad that in nearly 8 years he'd never brought me flowers once. Even if they'd been picked off a stobie pole I wouldn't have minded, I just wanted the idea to occur to him. But it didn't and I couldn't come out and just say it, so I did the 'I'm fine' bulls*** and of course I ended up having to spell it out.

I think if men know the issue and care enough for their partner then they will do everything they can to fix it.

It sucks that Mr McSpaz isn't a huge romantic as much as you wanted him to be and it's good you've accepted he's not but must be difficult when one partner isn't as romantic as the other. Buying flowers or any kind of showing affection towards your partner for that matter is not too much to ask, you're spot on. All couple have different ways of showing affection and I'm sure in any relationship it would be welcome at any given time.

fisho mcspaz wrote:

The Dark Knight wrote:

fisho mcspaz wrote:Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.

Good on him haha!

Fair enough if you know your partner well enough you can work it out but men get times where the issue is just complicated to work out for themselves and it's almost like they're expected to read the woman's mind and know what's going on in there, no matter how complicated it may be. Got that with my ex and it's the reason she is my ex lol.

I don't reckon I've ever done it for anything complicated - I can't actually think of anything complicated, most of my issues are pretty straightforward. The ONE thing, and I mean the one thing that I've said 'I'm fine' for when I wasn't, in the last 2-3 years, was that I used to get upset that MM never went out of his way to do anything romantic for me. I accept that he's not that sort of person but I also reckon that people should make an effort occasionally, it's not too much to ask. I'm not a high maintenance person or anything, I was just sad that in nearly 8 years he'd never brought me flowers once. Even if they'd been picked off a stobie pole I wouldn't have minded, I just wanted the idea to occur to him. But it didn't and I couldn't come out and just say it, so I did the 'I'm fine' bulls*** and of course I ended up having to spell it out.

not saying your like this fisho, but sometimes blokes cant win.

im not particularly romantic either, but years ago i was meeting the wife at her work on a friday, and i happened to be walking through the mall on the way, so i bought her a bunch of flowers, just because. got to her work and got the admin girls to call her to the front so i could give them to her, and her immediate response? "what have you done wrong??" ..... told her then and there its the last time i ever buy her flowers if thats the reponse i get, and ive stuck to it.

dont buy flowers "you never show me affection".... do buy flowers "what have you done wrong?"..... bugger it, ill just spend it on beer instead

I just dont understand buying flowers in general....i wouldn't want anyone to spend a few hours wages on plants that are gonna die pretty quickly anyway. Just doesn't make sense to me. And I dont understand how buying them shows you love them. Putting up with their shit should be proof enough.

I also think females that are like that should appreciate the ACTUAL things men go through to keep them comfortable and happy. I dont know about anyone else, but I try to make my missus's life as easy as possible. If she needs something, I'll do it happily. It works both ways. I appreciate everything she does for me.

HH3 wrote:I just dont understand buying flowers in general....i wouldn't want anyone to spend a few hours wages on plants that are gonna die pretty quickly anyway. Just doesn't make sense to me. And I dont understand how buying them shows you love them. Putting up with their shit should be proof enough.

Whilst not my missus I just went through the whole process of buying flowers for a female work colleague as she helped me get to the office each day after my ankle reco. Feck me this flower business is expensive, nearly $100 later and a simple arrangement delivered. This is something for special occasions gents not a regular thing

heater31 wrote:

HH3 wrote:I just dont understand buying flowers in general....i wouldn't want anyone to spend a few hours wages on plants that are gonna die pretty quickly anyway. Just doesn't make sense to me. And I dont understand how buying them shows you love them. Putting up with their shit should be proof enough.

Whilst not my missus I just went through the whole process of buying flowers for a female work colleague as she helped me get to the office each day after my ankle reco. Feck me this flower business is expensive, nearly $100 later and a simple arrangement delivered. This is something for special occasions gents not a regular thing

This.

Mrs smac is a florist, buying flowers is never expected (she'd only pick on them because she didn't arrange them).

If only she were also a jeweller.

tipper wrote:im not particularly romantic either, but years ago i was meeting the wife at her work on a friday, and i happened to be walking through the mall on the way, so i bought her a bunch of flowers, just because. got to her work and got the admin girls to call her to the front so i could give them to her, and her immediate response? "what have you done wrong??" ..... told her then and there its the last time i ever buy her flowers if thats the reponse i get, and ive stuck to it.

dont buy flowers "you never show me affection".... do buy flowers "what have you done wrong?"..... bugger it, ill just spend it on beer instead

I used to get "Why can't you do this more often?" ... they're never happy

smac wrote:Mrs smac is a florist, buying flowers is never expected (she'd only pick on them because she didn't arrange them).

If only she were also a jeweller.

this is why I rarely buy flowers, as I can see the eyes looking at the arrangement working out the cost!

tipper wrote:

fisho mcspaz wrote:

The Dark Knight wrote:

fisho mcspaz wrote:Oh, I agree! Women are hideous. I do it as well. It doesn't mean I'm fine, it means Mr McSpaz is f***ed. He doesn't let me get away with it any more though - if anything's wrong, he won't drop the subject until I spell it out. Which defeats the purpose, cos the whole point is to get them to work it out for themselves.

Good on him haha!

Fair enough if you know your partner well enough you can work it out but men get times where the issue is just complicated to work out for themselves and it's almost like they're expected to read the woman's mind and know what's going on in there, no matter how complicated it may be. Got that with my ex and it's the reason she is my ex lol.

I don't reckon I've ever done it for anything complicated - I can't actually think of anything complicated, most of my issues are pretty straightforward. The ONE thing, and I mean the one thing that I've said 'I'm fine' for when I wasn't, in the last 2-3 years, was that I used to get upset that MM never went out of his way to do anything romantic for me. I accept that he's not that sort of person but I also reckon that people should make an effort occasionally, it's not too much to ask. I'm not a high maintenance person or anything, I was just sad that in nearly 8 years he'd never brought me flowers once. Even if they'd been picked off a stobie pole I wouldn't have minded, I just wanted the idea to occur to him. But it didn't and I couldn't come out and just say it, so I did the 'I'm fine' bulls*** and of course I ended up having to spell it out.

not saying your like this fisho, but sometimes blokes cant win.

im not particularly romantic either, but years ago i was meeting the wife at her work on a friday, and i happened to be walking through the mall on the way, so i bought her a bunch of flowers, just because. got to her work and got the admin girls to call her to the front so i could give them to her, and her immediate response? "what have you done wrong??" ..... told her then and there its the last time i ever buy her flowers if thats the reponse i get, and ive stuck to it.

dont buy flowers "you never show me affection".... do buy flowers "what have you done wrong?"..... bugger it, ill just spend it on beer instead

Jeez, I don't blame you, I'd spend it on beer too!!

My wife doesn't give a rats if I don't do chores or give gifts, but flips if I don't make time to do stuff together.

Each of us prioritise needs differently.

Fisho, what do you think MM most needs from you?

4 of our young indigenous cricketers being selected in the intial 26 man National Indigenous Squad.

Massive achievement for SA and aboriginal cricket! It is the first time we have had this many players selected, and they are all still all under 18 - the future looks bright!

Having the tv on at work during the day and watching the replays of the world cup from the morning.

Q. wrote:My wife doesn't give a rats if I don't do chores or give gifts, but flips if I don't make time to do stuff together.

Each of us prioritise needs differently.

Fisho, what do you think MM most needs from you?

The 5 love languages book explains this. If you know what your partner needs from you it makes it much easier! There's a quiz that can determine how you like to be shown love.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

freshly squeezed Oranges from my tree

Proper state of origin and international sport when done correctly

Watching the league state of origin, football World Cup, union internationals it shows one thing the AFL has really missed the boat with

Beanbags

Tim Cahills equaliser

that was a superb finish

worth staying up just for that